Ok, I'll play along a little longer, I didn't start this to complain, I'm all good, the situation has been resolved , I was just cautioning folks that there is a lot of crazy out there.
The boy is a high level engineer in a big company, he makes very good money, owns a home and is a solid citizen, but like most engineers he is somewhat nerdy, and march to a different drum than most of us. Yes he likes gaming, online, and in a small group of friends, He doesn't meet with the on liners and the girl gamer is just one of that group, they don't chat or socialize, they play maybe 1 times a month so it's not like all his time is occupied by that....Half his stuff is what happens when you get a divorce, like has been mentioned , on here, many times, you want to try and not let that happen. The sister living with him was his idea to help her out, they both moved to Texas and they are a support team for each other. She had no intention of staying after he got married.
However...the girlfriend in all their dealings told the boy everything she THOUGHT he wanted to hear, even though it turned out that none of it was real and that she admitted to lying about it, He always went along with whatever she wanted including vacations , eating out or whatever she wanted to do. Being a nerdy engineer he was happy that she loved him and he would do anything for her, he truly thought they were simpatico and "the one" Everyone thought she was genuine and they were happy for his happiness.
Then the poop hit the fan and the charade stopped, she admitted lying, admitted she hated all his friends, tried to distance him from family and was manipulating him.... this is all on record. She then went on rants of rage, and then begging, making absurd promises, and back to rage. It was like a bipolar meltdown. Turns out there was some disturbing signs previously that he ignored, she said she needed some counseling and he offered to go with her and that he only wanted her to be well, and happy. Apparently she has behaved this way before they met and this came out after the break up.
The lying and manipulation was the final straw, he was devastated but did what he felt was best. It had nothing to do with "Daddy influence" He's a grown man and makes his own decisions, hard as they might be. Like I said, you had to be there, and not let personal biases color your ideas of what you think happened.
I and my family hopes she gets the help she needs, I feel sorry for her.
So I'm done with this thread, I explained it as honestly as I can, If I thought the boy was using, or mean to her, or being a jerk I'd have told him he was wrong, using my "daddy Influence" .
Glad to keep everyone sidetracked and entertained, we should do this again!