O I understand your point and agree on how most gammer's are. Playing games becomes more important than living life. Ie the wife, kids , work, ECT seen it many times. But that's not all of them and I have see the same obsession from sports people. The only thing saving the sports people is the game pre game and post game end. But a gammer can game 24/7.

As far as selling drugs being wrong. Well I'm conflicted on that. It's only wrong because the government says so. There is a market so supplying people with what they want is that wrong. Yes it can be bad for society but so can gambling, drinking, porn, gaming, sports. About anything that can take over someones life can have similar effects. You can't regulate morality.

I'm curious where you came up with this tidbit of information?

The fact that he knows she’s a lesbian means sex has been talked about.

Marriage is between 2 people. No kin folks, no other friends. You and your spouse.

As far as gaming and sports, to each his own…until it takes time away from your spouse. Honey I can’t or don’t want to because of either is unacceptable. Same with hunting and trapping. If it takes away time from each other then you’ll have an issue.

Luckily mine knew my addiction to the outdoors and even participates in certain activities with me. I knew about her cruiseaholic issues too and have no problem with it. People have always said we’d never last with my trips and her cruises, yet here we are at 28yrs this July. And all those folks that doubted us are all divorced.

They both sound like they need to mature a little before taking the plunge.

The more of this story that comes out...the more I'm starting to NOT see anything wrong that the pharmacist girlfriend has done. Why is she supposed to accept all of what the boyfriend wants? She appears to have tried to salvage the relationship.

I think the boyfriend will remain a single man playing his video games and this pharmacist will find her another man and be happy.

There is only one way for a marriage to succeed, in my amateur half century experience:

• Both need to change their pronouns from "I and Me" to "We and Us"

It appears that in spite of her insecurities, "Pharma Faye" has attempted that.

"gcs jr", may not be able to accomplish that until he frees himself from cyber and Daddy influence.

I feel like everyone who was following this thread shook their heads a bit when it was noted the son spent a lot of time playing online video games with a lesbian.

Somebody dodged a bullet, maybe two somebody's.

SO glad I never got married. I've seen and heard so many horror stories and 99.9% of the time the male gets the shaft.

If she lies, nothing else matters. It's not like she's going to stop lying after the wedding. It's not her preferences that are the issue, it's that she wasn't honest about them.

I'm going to go ahead and trust gps knows his kid better than the rest of you trapperman relationship experts.

It's all about finding the right woman and being the right man. It's work and takes understand from both. It's not always easy and takes commitment and dedication. It's not easy to find a woman or man willing to do what it takes today. The majority of divorce is started by women. Society has made it to easy for them to decide they are not happy and deserve to be happy. To many safety nets to prop them up and the man gets screwed.

With todays modern independent woman it's very easy for any man to get a quick hook up, and a good majority are not husband material to begin with.

I am very great full I'm not single.

You could be wrong about this. Sounds like she lied to save his precious gamer feelings!! Both my parents referred to them as a little white lie. Used in keeping from hurting someones feelings.
The fact this was even posted on here tells volumns about the parties involved. To me it would have been the ladies undoing if the sin had been cheating, lying about finances, ect. But to tell someone the sister in law has to go !!!
Plus if he is knee deep in the gaming world !! To use OP term gamer Nerds are weird!!! I can see why the girl didn't want to be around his friends. Funny how we haven't heard his occupation. If she is like MOST pharmacist she is pulling 12 hr shifts and propbly 5-7 days per week. Reason she don't like gaming is SHE IS TOO BUSY WORKING !!!!!!!

And I am very grateful I am single. SO MUCH less aggravation and frustration. Peace and quiet as well. I learn from other people's mistakes.

There’s a reason God forbid fornication. For several reasons. One was for our own protection. Read Proverbs chapter 5 and pay attention to the rotting in your bones part. Google the CDC on sexually transmitted diseases. It’s at a scary epidemic. 110 million Americans have a STD every day. Eliminate young kids, monogamous married, to old and other abstinence people and do the math.almost Every sexually active person outside marriage gets one or more. It’s killing millions with throat and cervical cancer. There are 4 that are incurable. Millions of young women will never have kids because undetectable STD scared their tubes. And on and on It’s a disaster but Hollywood glamorizes sex and sin. God didn’t forbid premarital sex because he was a kill joy. He did it because on multiple levels it’s destructive.

He put it on Tman for consideration.....so...

I would think that he knows his own kid more than gps or anyone on trapperman.

Ok, I'll play along a little longer, I didn't start this to complain, I'm all good, the situation has been resolved , I was just cautioning folks that there is a lot of crazy out there.

The boy is a high level engineer in a big company, he makes very good money, owns a home and is a solid citizen, but like most engineers he is somewhat nerdy, and march to a different drum than most of us. Yes he likes gaming, online, and in a small group of friends, He doesn't meet with the on liners and the girl gamer is just one of that group, they don't chat or socialize, they play maybe 1 times a month so it's not like all his time is occupied by that....Half his stuff is what happens when you get a divorce, like has been mentioned , on here, many times, you want to try and not let that happen. The sister living with him was his idea to help her out, they both moved to Texas and they are a support team for each other. She had no intention of staying after he got married.
However...the girlfriend in all their dealings told the boy everything she THOUGHT he wanted to hear, even though it turned out that none of it was real and that she admitted to lying about it, He always went along with whatever she wanted including vacations , eating out or whatever she wanted to do. Being a nerdy engineer he was happy that she loved him and he would do anything for her, he truly thought they were simpatico and "the one" Everyone thought she was genuine and they were happy for his happiness.
Then the poop hit the fan and the charade stopped, she admitted lying, admitted she hated all his friends, tried to distance him from family and was manipulating him.... this is all on record. She then went on rants of rage, and then begging, making absurd promises, and back to rage. It was like a bipolar meltdown. Turns out there was some disturbing signs previously that he ignored, she said she needed some counseling and he offered to go with her and that he only wanted her to be well, and happy. Apparently she has behaved this way before they met and this came out after the break up.

The lying and manipulation was the final straw, he was devastated but did what he felt was best. It had nothing to do with "Daddy influence" He's a grown man and makes his own decisions, hard as they might be. Like I said, you had to be there, and not let personal biases color your ideas of what you think happened.

I and my family hopes she gets the help she needs, I feel sorry for her.

So I'm done with this thread, I explained it as honestly as I can, If I thought the boy was using, or mean to her, or being a jerk I'd have told him he was wrong, using my "daddy Influence" .

Glad to keep everyone sidetracked and entertained, we should do this again!