Law Dog....you have to find some younger people to hang with...lol

My Mom is going home. Gave her some new medication. Going to see the local cardiologist in a week.

Great news!

My mom amd dad both went down that ugly road of dementia/Alzheimers, but my mom went throught it first and was in a great memory care place and my dad, to my surprise, was a great caregiver. He quit skiing at 82 and stopped playing golf and came to see her twice a day for years. When it was his turn, my brother wisely moved him from Montana to Wenatchee so he could be close.

Before he passed, I visited every year and it was funny.... we made a bond over music. My dad had never heard me play my guitar, but that was our bond. When I visited his memory care place with my guitar I'd play for 4 or 5 hours until my fingers were sore, but instantly there would be 15 or 20 old folks in wheelchairs in front of me. I'd play some Johnny Cash, Neil Young, some bluegrass, but it didn't matter because I could play the same song 5 minutes later and nobody knew. When I was here in France, I played his favorite songs over the phone to him, with the help of my neice, and I could always hear him tapping his hand on the table.

I too had some older gals ask me to come to their room for some fun. I was flattered but never took any of them up on it.

God bless my brother and his family for taking such great care of my parents.

Pete

People get left behind as time marches on and the new generation runs the show.
They get stuck in the past and many cant or wont accept the inevitable societal change.

Kind of funny that there's been a couple of mentions of gals still interested in you know what in these places. My brother was looking in on a friend that was in there and a kind of aged hippy befriended him. He was saying that if you were a guy and still had some function down there word got around and there was plenty of gals knocking on your door.

My daughter works in a nursing home and sadly as you mentioned lots, not all, of folks get dropped off to never see their "family" again.

Plenty will show up when the will is read.

I have spent over 20 years in elder care. Long term care, assisted living, memory care. The last 5 years made me retire. I was an Environmental Service Director. From life safety, housekeeping, Maintenance, transportation and whatever else was thrown my way.
The United States is and will continue to be in an elder care crisis. More elderly to care for than care givers. I very rarely saw a family that wanted to have there loved one live in a home. But when care becomes to much, raising your own family etc…
The biggest issue is planning ahead of time. Before it happens. Health directives, talking with you loved ones, are very very important.
Personally I have been on both sides. No plan and planned. Have a plan!!! In writing. An iunwritten plan is no plan. Make your wishes well known. No one wants to talk about end of life plans. But it is the best gift you can give. To your loved ones and the EMTs, medical teams, etc….

Heck I was the young one there.

Moved of the farm 3 years ago….

Thank you for your kind words. I was going to send you a PM, but your box is full.
Marrying into my wife's family 38 years ago is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I never had a second thought about helping take care of her mom and dad during these trying times. I don't care about how much it is going to cost me. It is clearly the right thing to do.