Saying goodbye
#8084786
02/23/24 10:07 PM
02/23/24 10:07 PM
|
Joined: Jan 2014
Posts: 17,740 Central Oregon
AntiGov
OP
trapper
|
OP
trapper
Joined: Jan 2014
Posts: 17,740
Central Oregon
|
Never easy
My mechanic buddy has fought cancer for a few yrs now . His wife called yesterday and said I better get out there ( to their house ) if I wanted to say goodbye . She said she understood if I didn't want to see him in his last days in his condition , but I told her I'd be there tomorrow , which was today . I left work at lunch time and drove the 30 minutes to thier house. During that drive I wondered what I would say to him . What do you say to someone on their death bed ? I arrived and entered into the living room where he was laying in a hospital bed . I spent the next hour in a chair next to his bed . He was in rough shape , could barely speak and had his eyes closed almost the entire time I was there . I did get him to smile a couple of times so I know he was coherent . A hospice nurse showed up so I figured it was time to exit , I held his Hand and told him I'd see him on the other side . Man it sure was a struggle to not let tears run down my face .
My buddy Craig is only in his yearly 60's and was delt a crappy hand with the cancer . He is done fighting the fight and his wife says the treatment has been worse than the cancer on him . He quit the treatment a month ago and quit eating about 7 days ago . He's ready to quit suffering and will be gone forever in a few days .
Report a post club - Non member
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: AntiGov]
#8084792
02/23/24 10:14 PM
02/23/24 10:14 PM
|
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 7,479 western mn
bucksnbears
trapper
|
trapper
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 7,479
western mn
|
Times like that sure suck!. He knew it was time to check out and you being there with him gave him piece of mind going out.
Glad you got to spend his last minutes with him.
swampgas chili and schmidt beer makes for a deadly combo
You have to remember that 1 out of 3 Democratic Voters is just as dumb as the other two.
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: AntiGov]
#8084802
02/23/24 10:22 PM
02/23/24 10:22 PM
|
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 11,535 Montana ,Rocky Mtns.
Sharon
"American Honey"
|
"American Honey"
Joined: Mar 2011
Posts: 11,535
Montana ,Rocky Mtns.
|
You did well. Better , so much , to be able to have a loved one know you are there, to feel love, no need to worry about what to say. Even in silence, a touch, smile, even in tears, telling them they are loved, means the world. The regret for many is not being able to do this .
Tell loved ones often that they are loved. That will never be forgotten.
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: AntiGov]
#8084813
02/23/24 10:30 PM
02/23/24 10:30 PM
|
Joined: Nov 2011
Posts: 23,748 New Hampshire
Nessmuck
trapper
|
trapper
Joined: Nov 2011
Posts: 23,748
New Hampshire
|
Your a good man AntiGov. Just being there meant a lot to your friend.
It would haunt you...if you didn’t go.
It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: AntiGov]
#8084817
02/23/24 10:32 PM
02/23/24 10:32 PM
|
Joined: Jun 2010
Posts: 11,927 MT (Big Sky Country)
Allan Minear
trapper
|
trapper
Joined: Jun 2010
Posts: 11,927
MT (Big Sky Country)
|
I'm glad you went to visit you're friend and his wife yes cancer sucks , yes the treatments are often worse than the illness talk about a rollercoaster ride for everyone involved . A good friend of mine flat out told me to eat no matter how bad things get when I was going through cancer treatments and to avoid a feeding tube at all costs , I didn't and a feeding tube isn't any fun at all .
Rest assured that you're visit ment the world to both your friend and his family they get a break even if it's just for a couple hours . I also lost a friend who was taking cancer treatments when I was to keep the conversation up beat and positive helps even if the outcome is bleak and a family member long ago which hit me the hardest .
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: AntiGov]
#8084889
02/24/24 12:54 AM
02/24/24 12:54 AM
|
Joined: Aug 2011
Posts: 45,595 james bay frontierOnt.
Boco
trapper
|
trapper
Joined: Aug 2011
Posts: 45,595
james bay frontierOnt.
|
God Bless. I know the experience. I made the trip to see my friend and trapping partner in his last hours on earth as he was dying of Pancreas cancer in the hospital.
Forget that fear of gravity-get a little savagery in your life.
|
|
|
Re: Saying goodbye
[Re: Providence Farm]
#8084951
02/24/24 07:29 AM
02/24/24 07:29 AM
|
Joined: Dec 2006
Posts: 3,723 Maine
Mac
trapper
|
trapper
Joined: Dec 2006
Posts: 3,723
Maine
|
Never worry about what to say in a situation like that. The ministry of being presence is powerful.
Mac
|
|
|
|
|