Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 06:34 AM
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Feb.17 i was probably saved by a pair of state troopers.had i stayed on the mental path i was on i don't know if i'd be typin this now.
have no urge to ever drink again and pray i don't.
hang in there our friend.we are all here for ya as they all were for me.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 09:52 AM
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My sympathies go out to you and hope this could be a wake up call for her. You are getting some excellent advice here. Take care of yourself number one. This can be extremely stressful. I have been in this exact situation and unfortunately it did not work out. After treatment she went right back to drinking and eventually cancer took her away. It was a wake up call for me, however, and after observing what alcohol was doing to her and our family, I gave it up. It will be 25 years sober for me next March 13th.
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I'm just happy to be here! Today I'm as young as I'll ever be and and older than I've ever been before!
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Re: DUI
[Re: KeithC]
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09/23/19 10:07 AM
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Since her response to you was "pure defiance", I would leave her in jail. She needs to realize her bad behavior effects you and the rest of your family too.
Keith I kind of agree with this. ^^ A little humble pie should have been in order. if she comes home and starts drinking again you have a Big decision to think over. I wish you the best on what ever you do!
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 11:50 AM
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Getting a lot of armchair QB decisions here. You will have to decide what is right for you. Know that you have friends here that will support you in whatever you decide. Will keep you in my prayers.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 04:32 PM
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You cannot help her until she’s ready to be helped. Letting her deal with the consequences may wake her up. Once she is ready to heal give her support and grace, don’t rub all this in her face ever unless she starts up again.
"I have two guns, one for each of ya."
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 08:58 PM
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Do not kick her out, that will hurt the kids and you more than you want to imagine. It is a catch 22 to do so, yes it might give her the wake up call she needs but it also might drive her to drink more especially with the increase of depression. Let her go before the judge, be prepared for her having a suspended license vehicles turned into inflatable cars. Do not even attempt taking her anywhere where alcohol is served or sold. Yes she might still find a way to get it but the less exposure the better. The exception is grocery stores but avoid the booze section. It will be hard for all of your family to go through this together, but remember your vows.
Prayers continue.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 09:08 PM
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My friend had a sauce hound for a wife.....tried and tied...he finally got some relief when here liver gave out. She loved the Jack Daniels too much.
It is better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 10:10 PM
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Still praying for you and your family. I’ve spent my life watching my dad deal with employees with this problem. It takes s lot of patience, and prayer. Only had one that we couldn’t help. God bless
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/23/19 11:20 PM
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I've been in your shoes and now am a single dad as a result. It's gotta be tough love from here on out. You cannot help someone who doesn't want to help them self. But, you can lay down some rules as to how your your family will move forward. Be supportive, but do not be an enabler!!!! That was my mistake. The problem is, an addict brings down everyone close to them. Don't let it happen to you or your family. Do what is best, the rest will sort itself out. I'd be happy to answer any questions via pm if you'd like. Good luck brother, I'll pray for you.
Life's a river, not a beach.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/24/19 12:21 AM
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There is an aa type program for spouses, alanon or something like that, they will be able to help. I wish you the best.
E 'Honey Badger Militia' Sleep, the anti woke adote.
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Re: DUI
[Re: warrior]
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09/24/19 01:04 AM
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Most people don't wake up one morning and say today I'm going to turn into an alcoholic. Often there is an underlying problem. Two reasons to drink in excess, your young and happy or drowning your problems. Or at least that's where it starts. You probably know which it is.
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Re: DUI
[Re: whtwtr79]
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09/24/19 06:53 AM
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I've been in your shoes and now am a single dad as a result. It's gotta be tough love from here on out. You cannot help someone who doesn't want to help them self. But, you can lay down some rules as to how your your family will move forward. Be supportive, but do not be an enabler!!!! That was my mistake. The problem is, an addict brings down everyone close to them. Don't let it happen to you or your family. Do what is best, the rest will sort itself out. I'd be happy to answer any questions via pm if you'd like. Good luck brother, I'll pray for you. Spot on.
Eh...wot?
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