What age is to young

For your daughter to dye her hair?
I think 10 is to young but my daughter's mom dyed our daughters hair

Any age. I never know what color my 30 year old's hair will be the next time I see her.

My daughter never dyed her hair, or even asked about it. But a couple days after turning 18 she got a big tattoo on her side. So you have that to look forward to.

Yep too young

That, too.

What type of dye job did she give her? There are different types some that are permanent and some that wash out after 30 days or 30 washes.

10 is definately too young for the permanent type. Not sure about the washable type. Seems like girls are growing up a lot faster than when I was 10.

I'm well over 50 and have NEVER dyed my hair. Not sure why women think it is even necessary.

My parents rule and now mine with the Boy is any hairdo or color is fine at any age BUT not at the start of a school year or the beginning of the semester. Taught that first impressions are very important and also good to let them express themselves while young so it's not a rebellious thing when they are older. Also talk to them when they start hating the color explain that's why you need to be sure about piercings and tattoos. I have neither and believe that type of parenting is why. So I would be upset that it is so close to the start of school but wouldn't let a ten year old see me sweat I'd take it up with her mom and tell your daughter she is beautiful no matter what. Kids don't want their parents approval all the time and if it gets a rise they will know how to gain control... keep them guessing.

Thats too Young is right

Adam, I'm with you she is too young.
The house rule here was our daughter was not allowed to dye her hair while living under our roof. If she wanted to look like a Dr.Suess character she had the rest of her life to do so. She is 29 now and has never altered her natural color.

I'm with you Adam. My wife allowed my daughter to get a few highlights in her's once. It looked alright, but I was like you, she was too young. She was 13.

Too young? That one I can't answer. I do know that according to my gal there's no age limit as to when NOT to dye her hair.

The age should be up to the parents.

I wouldn't allow it as long as they lived under my roof.

Same with tattos or piercings.

My Daughter wanted a tattoo at 16, we told her no. Not till you are on your own. Even if she was living at home while going to college it was a hard no.
If she did she was on her own, no help form us in college and no more living here during the summer.

If you don't like it don't allow it, that simple.
If you make your policy well know and you follow thru on your demands from day one they will listen.

my 2 daughters have been dyeing their hare for a few years , hot pink , deep green , blue , black and blue .

maybe I have given in too much but if it brings them enjoyment to change their hair every few months. I have other things to fight them on.

they are both high honer roll .

good people and their wild hair doesn't change who they are.

I could blame it on my wife , married an artist so I ended up with artists for daughters the oldest has chosen Art Education as her Major she wants to be a high school art teacher.

i think 4 years now so my oldest was 13 when she started with the colored hair and my youngest was 10. there may have been a threat that if their grades slipped or social behavior became and issue I would shave their heads to a 1/4 inch or get the muddiest brown I could find at the store and and they would be dirty brown haired.

I said I could blame it on my wife but since the wife's back was out when it was time to dye their hair the first time and she couldn't stand there and do it after a few minutes, I took over and now I have dyed the girls hair each time for the last 4 years. there just aren't that many things we have for shared interests , some cooking , and I take them to thrift stores but every few months I put on the most ratty shirt and shorts I own and dye hair and talk with my girls in there setting for an hour.

Thanks everyone I appreciate it. It's a hair that women use that doesn't come pt until the hair is grown. It looks good and is a reddish brown but still think 10 is way too young.

Wissmiss that's my thoughts exactly, they need to worry about being a kid and not acting like an adult. There's plenty of time to be an adult later. Girls and boys are constantly changing enough, they don't need additional changes or modifications. What is sad is society thinks it's ok for children to act and look like adults especially when it comes to self image.

Tattoos and additional piercings are a different story. They need to be a mature adult first and know that IF they get a tattoo it should have significant meaning and should be done a good artist in their licensed shop. There's piercings that never look good on anyone. Nose, big gauge on the ears and face are some that come to mind.

Adam.

Is "your daughter's mother" your wife? If so, it seems that she hasn't sought your advice for a while. Good luck with the other choices she makes.

As for tattoos.. everybody who gets a tattoo thinks it's significant and meaningful.

Good luck.

Pete

Green I think you have it figured out, don't sweet the small stuff. Its just hair and as long as grades and attitudes are good its not that big of deal. You are doing something that has opened those lines of commination with your girls.

Adam try to find out why she wanted to dye her hair, girls can be even meaner the boys at times. One of the biggest fights I lost was over type of underwear my daughter wanted to wear. Luckily my wife at the time was able to talk to my daughter and found out she was being teased and picked on in the locker room during gym class. Not something she would share with "dad".

My youngest boy had a full blown billy ray mullet for a while, heck just made him walk behind us in public (just kidding) but teased him and so did his friends however it made him outgoing and people knew who he was.

So many battles in life choose the important ones and do what you can to stay close to your daughters. Heck go with them to get their hair dyed next time and shock them by getting yours done too. LOL Adam you might just rock the "guy Feitti" blond highlites

^^^ my post was made under the assumption that your daughter's mom was not your S.O. or wife and might be trying to get you upset that was the keep them guessing part. And I would not allow any piercings or tattoos till The Boy is grown and out of the house but he did have a mohawk in kindergarten well after the school year started and knows he can do any style he wants so he just keeps it conservative now we will see as he ages. Fingers crossed.

good post wrangler - i've got two daughters that are 19 and 16 - I grew up in a house of boys, I'm the oldest of four. girls always have been, are, and will be a foreign species to me.
you have to learn your family as it grows and which "battles" need to be "fought" and which need to be passed.

my daughters are very different, one has been into hair nails and makeup for a while - the other not so much. I leave it up to my wife..mostly. i have a few strict rules about dress codes and what can be worn in public (and we agree on those).

my job is not to control every aspect of their life, but to make sure they have the tools and knowledge to responsible, upstanding, and contributing citizens to our society.

Pick your battles carefully I think I would save it and draw the line at revealing clothes tattoos and body piercings

Because some women think it will hide their age when they say a grey hair show up. I think grey hair adds class to a lady.

If they are old enough to have a job and PAY for it themselves . AND/OR not living under your roof then they can do it. Didn't say you had to like the color ...LOL

Thanks everyone great replies insight and wisdom. I haven't read all of them yet between my health and trying to move I can't function normally.

Swift that's correct. Even if she did/does she would ignore what I say and do it anyway.
My first tat I thought was a cool design so I got it done, now regret it. My second one is my daughter's name across my back. Still want my boys names tattooed.

Gcp and nvw, that's awesome. I'll ask her tonight as to why she wanted to dye her hair.

No I don't want to control every aspect of their lives but would rather them enjoy their childhood & not worry about superficial things at an early age.

Don't understand why folks would put chemical on their heads any day of the week, your going to meet enough garbage that can harm you in your life why go looking for it?

No idea Jerry. I don't get it either

Bigfoot, I'm picking my battles as best as I can. This hit me from left field. Her mom knows how i feel about this stuff. Maybe her mom did it just to yank my chain.

Trapper7, I agree unless the lady has no class.

Jbyrd, I agree.

Gcp that's great bonding between you and your girls.

Nvwrangler, oh that must have been a fun time arguing about underwear types. I'm glad you guys figured out the reason behind it. Lol I might be able to pull off Guy Feri's style but my hair is to curly rofl

Adam, at the time we had 8 kids between me and my wife 4 of hers 4 of mine ( 5 girls and 3 boys) from 19 to 4 years old. It was a learning experience to say the least. Biggest thing is don't fight over cell phones just suspend the phone line. Hair grows back and changes color pretty easy. Clothes and music styles come and go. The kid you hate will be the best friend or boy/girl friend. Don't worry about the things that won't matter in a month or six months. Always keep honest lines of communication open so they trust you to come to you with those things that do matter

They all made it through alive LOL

My rule was always honor your word if you need money and say you'll pay it back on a certain day then do it or make arrangements before hand.
College is on you Go party on your money not mine
No drugs

and you can do/be whatever makes you happy

I've shaved jersey numbers into my hair and dyed it for championship games worn silly outfits and costumes for fund raisers, coached teams and driven car pool what ever it took to stay connected.

May not get calls every week but do get calls every time they need advice or just an ear to listen

FYI I still get asked to braid hair at livestock shows for the grandkids LOL

Thanks
Thanks that's some solid advice I appreciate it.

If money is tight any age is too young.

Seems too young but...

It's not permanent and kids at that age are really starting to want to express their individuality (by doing what everyone else their age is doing). I would have had a fit if it was my daughter but I'm older now and it no longer seems like such a big deal. Maybe because we've already made it through the teenage years so dyed hair seems tame by comparison.

If I was doing the dad thing again, I would let her dye her hair at 10 as long as it was something respectable - highlights, color change, etc. I would not agree to bright green - it gives the wrong impression that she's a troublemaker and I would explain that to her. But if she wanted to go from brown hair to blonde - why not? It will grow back. You have a lot of battles ahead of you... A LOT of battles! Win the ones that are necessary to keep her safe but let her win a few once in a while. She needs to feel like she has some control of her own life.

Unfortunately, your struggle with her for control of her life is just starting. She will feel ready to make her own decisions before she really is - or at least before you're ready. I'm sure my parents when through the same things with me.

Good luck.

My girlfriend dyes her hair blue often, usually changes the color between red, blue, brown, blonde, or almost white every month or 6 weeks because she "gets tired" of it. Drives me nuts. She wonders why she doesn't get jobs sometimes when she interviews or nobody takes her seriously at her current job for promotions or anything. Time to grow up and look presentable.

Sleek, is she using the store bought stuff? If so she's wrecking her hair real fast. My daughter's mom is always changing her hair color with that stuff because she's sick of it too. She has completely ruined her hair,so much so that it will take years of extra attention to get it healthy again. My cousin who usually cuts her hair and other beauticians have all told her. I have friends and other family who all say the same thing.

MG, valid points for sure. The chemicals especially in over the counter stuff is crazy and is very damaging to skin and hair especially at a young age. My daughter is going to have a fit trying to fix the damage if this continues. She hates taking care of her fake eye and that's stupidly simple.

Sometimes the sooner things like that are started, the sooner they are let go. There are more concerning things that our youth can become involved in or with.

Bryce

My advice... don't let her dye it black

My natural blonde has been mouse-brown ever since.

Bummer. I bet it still looks good.

Remember my daughter wanted to pierce her belly button in high school. No was my answer and certainly no wardrobe mod to show her belly button. She did in college but abandoned it in a short time. Was ten years before I knew.

She now has two daughters. Wonder what her rule will be.